In “The evolution of Gratitude,” Malini Suchak talks about where gratitude originated and how it evolved into what it is today. First discussed was how to find gratitude in a species that can’t say thank you. “Since you can’t ask how they are feeling, you observe behavior – and the behavior that reflects gratitude is called reciprocity. Reciprocity is an exchange of goods and services between two individuals over time. This kind of mutual arrangement can be beneficial to both parties, making them more likely to survive.” In earlier species, survival was key. The thought processes of today allow us to dive deeper into the ideas and concepts of reciprocity. When we do, we reach gratitude.
The good in gratitude:
Robert Emmons’ essay “Why Gratitude is Good,” wraps itself around the two steps we follow in gratitude. One is “the affirmation of goodness. We affirm that there are good things in the world, gifts and benefits we have received.” Second, “we recognize that the sources of this goodness is outside ourselves. We acknowledge that other people – or even higher powers – gave us many gifts, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.” Understanding reciprocity and the good in gratitude helps us to act with grateful hearts, which leads to more fulfilling relationships.
Quality Relationships
The key to a happy existence in a human life revolves around relationships. Ours with God, with family, with children, with friends, and with one another when we don’t even know each other yet. All are significant to surviving, to living, and to thriving. All of this leads me to discussing my life and my own relationships.
7 Days of Gratitude: Day 4: Samuel
As a mom, the most important people in my life after God are my kids. My relationships with them are ones I work the hardest at. I worry about them, I fret over the decisions I make regarding them, and I pray for them all the time. The thankfulness I feel for them is highest on my list of gratitude.
The Lord blessed me with Sam in 2010. He came into the world as a screaming red ball of baby. Since that moment, he has been a handful for me. He is my most difficult child because he is so wild and crazy. I call him spicy. I guess you can say that he is all boy. He climbs, does all the daring things possible, and really keeps me on my toes. But, I would not have it any other way. He is the child that always wants to be outside, is outgoing, speaks his mind, and loves life. Sam is such a wonderful kid. He has a very sensitive, loving side to him. When you catch him on a day that he is wanting to be this affectionate being, it is amazing. My heart is so full when he is around.
References
greatergood.berkley.edu
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